Why I’m Not Following You on Twitter (and How to Keep Up with People on Twitter without Following Them)

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This article is going to be controversial. Whether or not you should follow everyone who follows you on Twitter is a topic which engenders strong emotions and heated debate. In fact, in the past I have been accused of “game playing” because I had 1600+ people who follow me on Twitter, while I ‘follow’ fewer than 50.

Now I have a few thousand people following me, while the number of people that I follow hovers around 30.

Here’s my reasoning: I think that it is wrong for me to lead someone to believe that I am keeping up with everything that they say when I can’t possibly. We all know that people who are following thousands of people on Twitter aren’t really following them. It’s a token gesture, in name only. I think that it is wrong for me to suggest to someone that I’ll be following everything they say on Twitter when I know that I can’t possibly keep up with 3300+ people. It would be a more-than-fulltime job.

I actually take following very seriously, most especially when someone follows me. This is why I make a point of looking up every single person who follows me, and interacting with them personally. If they are going to take time out of their own busy schedules to follow me, and read what I write, then the least I can do is to acknowledge them, and thank them for the compliment. I also strongly believe that I need be respectful of their time – again, time they’ve taken time out of their own busy lives to follow me – and make sure that what I write is worth reading. (I don’t always manage that last one, but I really do try.)

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Similarly, and more to the point of following people or not, I make a point of answering every single message that anyone sends me on Twitter. Which is more important, following someone, or actually communicating with them and respecting their time?

It’s also important to remember that you don’t need to follow someone – and they don’t need to be following you – for you to message them with an “@” preceding their name. When you do that, they will see the message regardless of whether or not they are following you. And, as I said, I make a point of responding to everyone who @ messages me. Some people will complain that if you don’t follow them they can’t direct message you (send you a private message). I don’t get direct messages via Twitter anyways, I get them sent to me as email, and I give my email address out freely on Twitter – why limit yourself to 140 characters (the maximum length of a message on Twitter) if you have something important to say to someone?

Now, all this said, whether or not I am following someone on Twitter, I may be following everything they say on Twitter. This is especially true for people whose pearls of wisdom I really don’t want to miss.

Here’s how I do it:

I subscribe to their Twitter streams by RSS, and read them in my RSS reader.

This is infinitely more manageable than any other system I have found, be it favoriting, reading their Twitter stream through the web interface, or through any Twitter client or service.

I can read the Twitter streams of several people in scant seconds by scanning down the list in my RSS reader.

Here, by the way, is a little tip I’ve discovered in case you want to try this: the RSS feed at the bottom of a Twitter user’s Twitter profile page doesn’t automatically work and populate for all RSS readers. And if that’s the case (and you have to copy and paste the link into your RSS reader), it may not automatically update, either. What I’ve found is that you need to edit the link to include the “www” (Twitter provides the feed as “http://twitter.com/…” and it needs to be “http://www.twitter.com…” for at least some readers, which likely has something to do with something on their end, but adding the “www” will fix it.)

Don’t have an RSS reader? There’s a great list of free RSS readers here.


P.S. You can follow me on Twitter here.

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6 thoughts on “Why I’m Not Following You on Twitter (and How to Keep Up with People on Twitter without Following Them)

  1. Hey Pierre! We have that “idiot’s guide to Twitter”! It’s called “Twitter explained in plain English”, and it’s here:

  2. You know Anne, you need to write an idiot’s guide to Twitter (and Facebook, too).

    I keep away from these “things”, largely because I cannot understand them.

    And why this insane 140 Character limit?
    I may suffer from Logorrhoea, but I have never said anything of consequence in 140 chars. Are we all using 1980 Apple ][+’s?

    And why would I want to “follow” someone who tweets(?)…

    “Just went to lunch at Le Foo Foo. Had quiche. Yum.”

    (And no I will NOT count to see if my sample message is within 140 chars!)

    What in heck would happen if your message was longer? Would the world come to an end?

    It may not be worth the bother for you to explain Anne… I may be too old, too slow… and it MAY take more than 140 Characters!

    But thanks for all you do anyway! You’re great and have saved many of us from faux pas.

  3. Good Stuff Thanks I am def going to look at managing my following in that way come to think of it I am going to clean up who i follow too…

    Anthony Aires

  4. thannks for the “invite” link to follow you on twitter, but no, i enjoy your newsletter, and comments but i feel no need to take it any further and i respect your right to privacy.

  5. Thanks, Anne! I’ve been doing that but feeling guilty about it. I even put some people I DO follow on RSS so I don’t have to go back and look for missed Tweets.

  6. An article right out of my heart! You cannot follow anything and everything. I think that building a relationship is far more important than having a huge number of followers.

    That RSS trick is new for me, by the way.

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